“Improving your own behaviour is really quite simple” according to The Behaviour Expert, Jez Rose
Jane is not her real name; I’ve changed it to protect her identity. But her story is real.
Jane is 53 and the Vice President of a multi-national telecommunications company. She found a coach on the internet, while doing some late night searching for some direction in her life. During what she describes as a “moment of weakness”, she found herself contemplating what all the rush, the pressure and the stress was really all about. She didn’t dream to be this person. Yes she had money; she earn good money. But she worked long hours, travelled extensively and being away from home; from her husband, her children and her pets, always jarred with her. There was a constant sense of battling male egos and no matter how senior she was by title, she always felt like she had to fight to be heard and taken seriously, which she always doubted that she ever was.
So Jane signed up to a coach, which she said helped enormously – for a few weeks. The coach wanted to speak with Jane weekly but at the end of the call, Jane began to feel that she had more questions and a greater sense of unknowing; a deeper sense of confusion than she had when the calls began. “So many questions and very little practical advice began to take its toll”, Jane recalls.
“I needed help with clarity, focusing and some practical advice on how to better manage myself and my colleagues at work because I instinctively knew that my own uncertainty, anxieties and lack of confidence was affecting my behaviour in my job.” As the open-ended questions continued, Jane began to give up and cancelled her coaching plan. So it was with somewhat of a surprise for Jane to hear me speak at her company conference, when I mentioned my coaching clients and that “improving your behaviour and developing higher performance is really quite simple.”
It’s not necessarily easy – but it is simple. Only, if it were that simple, you’d do it yourself, right? You’d be
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